Often I write sensitive content. In this case I am discussing sexual abuse against children. Even if you feel brave, or have moved beyond a previous trauma, I would ask you not to read this post. The old idea of reliving past experiences to move past them has proven to be inneffective, and this post may contribute to bringing up issues you have moved beyond. Additionally, this post and upcoming posts I would ask you not to share widely elsewhere for the same reason.
The content of the book as a probe I created goes through the currently unresolvable issues surrounding paedophilia in detail as I have discussed previously. But then it gets to what can be addressed.
Primarily this is that these people suffer comorbid symptoms because of their paedophila, mostly anxiety and depression. I chose to primarily address the self help treatments using CBT that are proven to work.
As an introduction, comorbidity simply means things happening at the same time. This may mean anxiety is covering up the underlying cause. A common example is that alcoholism is covering depression, so the alcoholism is treated. And for some that may be enough of a kick start to dealing with the depression.
The common anxiety related behaviours that can be associated with paedophilia, understandably, include seek to remove yourself or seeking safety. Not hard to understand, somebody with inappropriate attractions may find themselves avoiding school areas, avoiding being out in public when school gets out, or avoiding events where they may see children. Anxiety also involves worrying about future events and it is the fear of, say, an opportunistic encounter, that can paralyse somebody.
Depression here is relevant mostly to symptoms such as feelings of worthlessness, and at an extreme suicidal ideation. This is particularly relevant not only to paedophiles though, but what the stigma around paedophilia involves. There have been numerous suicides that have happened not because of the crime of paedophilia, but the accusation alone. There are now people deceased because of this accusation, and whether or not they committed the crime will remain unknown. Being accused, and knowing the consequences, is life shattering. Even a non-guilty verdict casts doubt and shame over a life. Understandably after building a career as a trusted school head, religious figure, or community figure the accusation is devastating.
The inability to seek treatment for the paedophile for these problems, and the state of stigma around even simply being accused is a deeper, fundamental breach of human rights. The social contracts, not legal stipulations alone, define this taboo in a horrific manner that can be devastating.
Highlighted in the work are these,
All human beings are born free and equal in dignity and rights. They are endowed with reason and conscience and should act towards one another in a spirit of brotherhood.
Everyone has the right to life, liberty and security of person.
No one shall be subjected to torture or to cruel, inhuman or degrading treatment or punishment.
All are equal before the law and are entitled without any discrimination to equal protection of the law. All are entitled to equal protection against any discrimination in violation of this declaration and against any incitement to such discrimination.
Everyone has the right to freedom of movement and residence within the borders of each state.
Everyone has the right to work, to free choice of employment, to just and favourable conditions of work and to protection against unemployment.
Everyone has the right freely to participate in the cultural life of the community, to enjoy the arts and to share in scientific advancement and its benefits.
Education shall be directed to the full development of the human personality and to the strengthening of respect for human rights and fundamental freedoms. It shall promote understanding, tolerance and friendship among all nations, racial or religious groups ...
The future to altering this needs so many stakeholders on board. Society, government, and media to begin with. This situation is not the intention ofpeople to violate these rights. But little is changing. This is not an inevitable state of things. It is an accident. This may be the beginning of the conversation for you.